Now on to more happier things

by Anand Lal Shimpi on September 29, 2004 12:06 AM EST
So after meeting the girl of my dreams, after 22 years of being an only child and somehow enjoying living alone, I got married. Everyone warned me that I was young and that marriage is not something you can prepare for, everything changes after it happens, etc... And they were right. I am young, and everything did change but, to put it bluntly and I'm not doing this for dramatic effect, I couldn't be happier. As I sit here and type this blog she, the only person in this world who I feel a connection strong enough to that I feel she is an extension of myself and me an extension of her, is sitting less than 3 feet away and regardless of where I am, I feel at home. I feel comfortable, I feel happy and damn I can't get this smile off my face. I'm sure lots of people get married for the wrong reasons, tons have unhappy marriages and everyone has problems, but at this very moment I can tell you with all assurances that I made the right decision - I am happy and there's no other way to explain it other than that. There are always ups and downs but the average is what I look at, and here, to me, the average is perfect - I'm not the best at math but I'm not the worst, and a perfect average isn't half bad :)

The wedding day was wonderful. We were fighting off a hurricane in NC and it was raining all over, I managed to have a spirited drive over to the wedding itself and got a slight scare with too much water between one of my wheels and the pavement - I'll chalk that one up to driving in a tux being more of a hinderance than an aid. I wasn't nervous, in fact, as soon as I arrived and started greeting guests I felt just at home. The more I thought about it, the more I wasn't nervous about the wedding, but about the honeymoon itself (no I wasn't nervous about that); after all, I hadn't had 2 weeks off since before I started AnandTech, since before I was 14...that's was a long time ago. What was I supposed to do for 2 weeks with no work, no stress, nothing but my beautiful wife? I ended up having the time of my life there too, but more on that later.

Neither Vinney or I are particularly religious, we have our own beliefs and morals and live by them, which tend to be similar to the morals and beliefs taught in all religions to an extent so it works out well in the end. Vinney comes from a Sikh family, and with me having no real idea of what I'd like the ceremony to be we agreed on a Sikh ceremony (which is why some of the pictures you may have seen online had my head covered with a purple bandana). I honestly felt a bit out of place until I could finally see and hold my bride, then I was brought back home again and everything was good.

Funny enough, I couldn't understand a single word of the ceremony. The person leading the ceremony could have been reading an AnandTech review in Punjabi and I wouldn't have had the slightest clue. My eyes were on Vinney the entire time and when it looked like it was my turn to do something, I did whatever I remembered I was supposed to do from watching a video of others go through the same thing. After a very short period of time it was over and then the pictures and shaking of hands started. It's nothing too unusual, similar to what happens at a tradeshow (except people were taking pictures of us instead of me taking pictures of products) so I continued to feel right at home. For those of you who aren't married yet, invest in some sort of a digital photo processing stand to be present wherever you get married. That way, have one photographer take whatever pictures people want and then let them go up to the stand and download them to CF card or print them out right then and there. I know I'm dreaming but it would save quite a bit of time, trust me :)

We spent the cocktail hour between the ceremony and reception dinner pretty much alone winding down and letting it soak in. This was also when we had our own little ceremony where we exchanged rings (there is no accommodation for that in the Sikh ceremony, but we made changes here and their to suit our desires), it was nice to have some quiet time before the reception dinner.

The dinner itself was great, the food was wonderful and contrary to what everyone told me would happen, I actually got to eat dinner. What I didn't get to do was eat enough of the wedding cake, which looked and tasted (the little bit that I did have) wonderful. I was honestly quite worried because the restaurant catering the wedding had just fired the chef that we both liked (the rest of the chefs weren't anywhere as good) for using too many ingredients in his cooking (what made his cooking better than the rest of the chefs) and we weren't impressed with the cake at our final tasting of it before the wedding. Luckily both issues were nothing to worry about when the big day arrived and it just made for an even more incredible event.

It was so wonderful to have the entire AnandTech family at the event, even ATers of the past (Mike Andrawes, Matthew Witheiler) made the wedding so very perfect for me. We ended up staying until almost all the guests had gone and left for our honeymoon the next morning.

I've got much more to post but I'm going to head to bed for now. Needless to say, it was overwhelming happiness that I was left with on that day and it is still with me today, which I hope I've conveyed in this post.

I've got work stuff to talk about too as well as lots more in upcoming blogs, I'm hoping to make them more regular again.

Take care and Good Night.
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  • HGC - Friday, October 1, 2004 - link

    Thanks filling us in on the blessed event Anand! I've been coming to the site since the first month, and your obvious happiness really makes my day. Give Vinney a kiss on the cheek from all us anonymous AnandTechies!
  • Steve - Friday, October 1, 2004 - link

    I'm having a problem with my computer...just kidding. I also have been an avid reader since the geocities days and really enjoy your website. Congrats on your wedding and best wishes to you and your family.
  • Muslimdude - Friday, October 1, 2004 - link

    Anand,

    Congratulations to both you and Vinnie and may both of you live happily ever after :) I was so happy when I saw your wedding pictures, it's nice to know that young people still get married these days.

    To the other Muslim guy who made the comments about kafir and what not, get a life man, whether or not Anand is Muslim or whatever is between him and God. Now that I think about it, that anonymous guy probably isn't even Muslim. I'm Muslim and I don't go around using stupid words like "kafir" (unbeliever) or infidel.
  • Anonymous - Friday, October 1, 2004 - link

    #39: Why am I starting to get a feeling that AnandTech does not have the most intelligent people. One is apparently a hardcore follower of Islam and call names to people from other religion.

    Another one wants Anand to leave his life and get to reviewing as if he pays Anand. You can't control Anand. You don't pay him for what he does so STFU!

    And now we have a third asshole who can't take the fact that Anand is sensitive and cares about his wife. So a guy can't be sensitive?



    Sorry for my language, but it is really annoying to know that some people can't help but interfere in others personal life. I wouldn't be surprised if Anand took off his blog. If you don't like what you read here or if you don't have anything educational to contribute, then please do us all a favor and don't visit anymore. Apparently all of you are a mere low class individuals and are probably working at a grocery store at minimum wages and can't handle Anand's success.
  • Zed - Friday, October 1, 2004 - link

    "the only person in this world who I feel a connection strong enough to that I feel she is an extension of myself and me an extension of her"

    *pukes*
  • #34 - Friday, October 1, 2004 - link

    #34

    Blow me.
  • Jona - Friday, October 1, 2004 - link

    Where are the pics of the wedding?
  • jrphoenix - Friday, October 1, 2004 - link

    Hi Anand,

    Good read & once again congratulations. I can relate with your totally on feeling out of place at your wedding (until your bride appeared). My wife is from Malaysia and we had our wedding there (3 days & 3 nights of wedding). It was great but, I still don't know what was said or what our marriage certificate says :P

    We are happy!!
  • Anonymous - Friday, October 1, 2004 - link

    #30 Diana
    Could you please provide the links? Never heard of the "Herald", from where I come from.
  • Anonymous - Friday, October 1, 2004 - link

    Now another fanatic arsehole (#27) pops up.

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